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  • Ten Simple Ways to Protect Your Vibe

    Ten Simple Ways to Protect Your Vibe and Mental Clarity

    in a world full of sociopaths.

    positivity, health, mental health awareness.

     

    Welcome to 2020, a year known for it’s tumultuous events that seem to never end and most of us are probably feeling drained. Our mental clarity has taken a plummet and our vibes are dull.. Now more than ever, it’s extremely important  to guard your vibe and energy as we are quickly finding out that many of those we encounter these days, are sociopaths. Protecting your vibe and mental clarity  is even easier than you think. If you don’t know how than here is a simple list to get you going. Don’t worry when reading this, as you may have a bit of a reality check…and that’s okay! We all need them from time to time as it aids in self-growth. Being able to protect your vibe and mental clarity also helps with self-love. Here’s a list of ten simple ways to protect your vibe and mental clarity, even during a pandemic! Go grab yourself a hot cup of coffee and snuggle in. It’s time to drop the dead weight and start living the life you have always wanted.

     

     

     

    how to protect your vibe
    how to protect your vibe and inner well-being, even during a pandemic.

     

    Ο Learn to let go of things you cannot control-

    Unfortunately you cant stop a tornado from happening, or deadly virus outbreak, though you can prevent simple anxiety. One of the largest leading factors that lead to anxiety is procrastination. You can control that. Learn to set a new routine for yourself and start by making a small to-do list to help you stay focused on your tasks. Training your mind, body, and soul to accomplish even the smallest of tasks is a great way to stick to a plan. We cant control the things we cant, like losing a job. But we can get a new job.

    Ο Avoid comparing yourself to others-

    It’s so easy to find ourselves comparing our lives to someone else’s and thinking that the grass is greener on the other side. To be quite frank, if you focus on watering your won garden, you wouldn’t have to wonder IF the grass was truly greener on the other side. . That’s not fair to you, or the person whom you feel is above you. You don’t know how long it took them to get to that place. Don’t compare where your at in your life to someone else. It will belittle you and have you feeling defeated. If you find yourself in this position, make a change if you can. Toxic friend draining your energy? Love them from a distance. Stuck in a job where its a dead end? Do  what you need to do to get to where your standards are.

     

     

     

     

    Ο Always keep your faith larger than your fears

    It’s like looking for the sun when the rain never stops. Anytime anything negative happens, figured out a way to make the problem better. Try pushing yourself out of your comfort box. For example, I have a difficult time going into the grocery store these days. I have to mentally tell myself that I need groceries and my kids need food to eat.

    Ο Don’t do anything that doesn’t feel right with your vibe.

    I learned A LONG TIME AGO, always trust your gut instinct because 9/10 it’s always correct.  Practice saying no. Say no to anything that doesn’t sit well with you; you are entitled to make your own decisions and your feelings are valid.

    Ο Do spend time alone.

    When my anxiety is super crazy some days, I like to shut myself in my dark bedroom, put a weighted blanket  over me and listen to some ASMR on YouTube. It’s very soothing and satisfying; spending time alone can ensure your empty cup gets refilled. Being in world full of sociopaths can be very draining so it;s important to make time for ourselves. There’s 24 hours in a day, you are entitled and deserving of at least one hour of the 24.

    Ο Avoid gossip and bashing others-

    All I will say about this one is, it’s impossible to grow if you’re always worried about what someone else is doing. Water your own grass and focus on it’s growth. Plus, you know you’d be p!ssed if you were in the spot light. Im sure we all learned in grade school that it isn’t nice to talk about someone when they aren’t there to defend themselves

    Ο Speak kindly to yourself and to other people

    Positive affirmations are a great way to put yourself in a self-love routine. Simply start with a simple affirmation. “I am beautiful.” “I can do this.” See my full affirmation’s list to get of easy to follow positive affirmations.

     

     

     

    Ο Stay away from people who drain your energy

    These types of people may be known as toxic people. If you’re afraid to cut a toxic family member off, love them from a distance. After a while though, you’ll learn how to  politely tell them to f*ck off. Once you realize how precious you and your time are, it becomes that much easier to drop the dead weight.  I’m also talking about those so called friends who claim to always have your back, but when the time comes they’re nowhere in sight. Or those friends who never call you to check in, but then claim they hate everyone and so forth…those kind of people will hinder your growth.

    Ο Ignore any opinions that don’t enhance your life

    The way I look at it is, if someone has something to say about my life, they better make sure their closest is empty before judging someone else. Learning how to ignore any opinions that DON’T ENHANCE YOUR LIFE can take a long time., but it is crucial in order to protect your state of mind. I used to find myself overthinking every mean  word said to me. Often times I would actually believe those words and end up in a depressive slump of self-doubt.

    Ο Stop doubting yourself

    Self doubt kills more dreams than I can count. Self doubt is a physical trait that rents a room in your head and feeds you negative thoughts. We must teach ourselves not to fill our beautiful brains with such negativity. As someone who has doubted herself for a very long time, I finally taught myself how to cope with such negativity. When I first started my blog, I had what was known as “impostor Syndrome”, meaning, I kept telling myself I wasn’t good enough for x,y, and z. I redirected who I spent my time on and how much of my time and ideas I was giving away. Be mindful of what goes in your head, because when you feed it positive thoughts, positive outcomes start happening.

     

     

     

     

     

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  • 6 Simple Ways to Relieve Stress & Anxiety

    …..because we all know it’s a b!tch.

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    We all have experienced the daunting feeling of anxiety in one form or another; whether it be those hectic mornings where you’ve overslept, one kid doesn’t want to go to school while the other child has changed her clothes 4x before getting out the door, or those heavy traffic commutes and youre nervous about getting to work, meeting, appointment on time. The pit in the bottom of your stomach; that feeling of being suffocated; we’ve all felt it. And if you haven’t, good for you, Superman!

    Below is a list of my personal strategies known AND proven to help reduce anxiety and its symptoms

     

     

     

    Make a Mental To Do List

    Feeling overwhelmed with the lengthy to do list your about to be faced with? Make a mental note in order of the things you need to complete. Doing this helps your brain slow down and organize what needs to be done for the day. Write. Things. Down. If you feel you won’t remember. I always love crossing off each task as I complete them. It gives me a feeling of accomplishment 

     

     

    Dress to Impress

    First impressions are a major thing amongst the human population. Don’t get me wrong, I am ALL FOR comfy clothes, but don’t show up to a class presentation or meeting in lounge clothes when you should be polished and put together. Arriving to an intimidating environment with a face full of make up and dressed to take on the day shows you are confident and self-aware.  From personal experience, I can say that when it comes to exams, when I do my makeup and feel good about my outfit I do better because I feel confident in myself and I know I will do well. I like to feel professional with most aspects. It’s important to feel empowered and motivated.

         

     

     

    Go for a walk

    Obviously, this option isn’t always available. If you are able to escape for 30 minutes for a stroll, do it. If not, at least try to sit outside for 10 minutes to get some fresh air and a change of scenery. This will allow for fresh ideas to arise and to collect our thoughts. It’s also a great way to increase serotonin levels.

     

    Turn Distractions off

    TAKE A BREAK FROM SOCIAL MEDIA! I can’t stress this enough. Too often we are needing to feel validated with Facebook status likes and how many Instagram likes you can get on your latest post. Each new like becomes a rush; an addiction. Instead of being grateful for what you have, you’re comparing your life with that Instagram model. The grass LOOKS greener on her side, but it’s not. That oh so perfect family you see- not perfect. I can guarantee you their kids are little assholes, just like yours can be (we love them anyway). Put the phone down when your daughter wants to tell you about her day. Spend more time connecting with your family. 

    Do Your Face

    Morning and night, wash ya face! Whether you wear a full face of makeup or mascara is enough, it’s important to start with proper skincare. Start each new day with a clean, blank canvas.

     

                 

     

    Medicate

    Lastly- ask for help. It’s okay to see a shrink and it’s okay to be on medication. Do not ever let anyone tell you otherwise. No one is created equal and what works for Sarah may not work for Bob. Talk with your doctor and see what works for you!

     

    I hope these tips help you feel more relaxed

     

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