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  • Ten Simple Ways to Protect Your Vibe

    Ten Simple Ways to Protect Your Vibe and Mental Clarity

    in a world full of sociopaths.

    positivity, health, mental health awareness.

     

    Welcome to 2020, a year known for it’s tumultuous events that seem to never end and most of us are probably feeling drained. Our mental clarity has taken a plummet and our vibes are dull.. Now more than ever, it’s extremely important  to guard your vibe and energy as we are quickly finding out that many of those we encounter these days, are sociopaths. Protecting your vibe and mental clarity  is even easier than you think. If you don’t know how than here is a simple list to get you going. Don’t worry when reading this, as you may have a bit of a reality check…and that’s okay! We all need them from time to time as it aids in self-growth. Being able to protect your vibe and mental clarity also helps with self-love. Here’s a list of ten simple ways to protect your vibe and mental clarity, even during a pandemic! Go grab yourself a hot cup of coffee and snuggle in. It’s time to drop the dead weight and start living the life you have always wanted.

     

     

     

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    how to protect your vibe and inner well-being, even during a pandemic.

     

    Ο Learn to let go of things you cannot control-

    Unfortunately you cant stop a tornado from happening, or deadly virus outbreak, though you can prevent simple anxiety. One of the largest leading factors that lead to anxiety is procrastination. You can control that. Learn to set a new routine for yourself and start by making a small to-do list to help you stay focused on your tasks. Training your mind, body, and soul to accomplish even the smallest of tasks is a great way to stick to a plan. We cant control the things we cant, like losing a job. But we can get a new job.

    Ο Avoid comparing yourself to others-

    It’s so easy to find ourselves comparing our lives to someone else’s and thinking that the grass is greener on the other side. To be quite frank, if you focus on watering your won garden, you wouldn’t have to wonder IF the grass was truly greener on the other side. . That’s not fair to you, or the person whom you feel is above you. You don’t know how long it took them to get to that place. Don’t compare where your at in your life to someone else. It will belittle you and have you feeling defeated. If you find yourself in this position, make a change if you can. Toxic friend draining your energy? Love them from a distance. Stuck in a job where its a dead end? Do  what you need to do to get to where your standards are.

     

     

     

     

    Ο Always keep your faith larger than your fears

    It’s like looking for the sun when the rain never stops. Anytime anything negative happens, figured out a way to make the problem better. Try pushing yourself out of your comfort box. For example, I have a difficult time going into the grocery store these days. I have to mentally tell myself that I need groceries and my kids need food to eat.

    Ο Don’t do anything that doesn’t feel right with your vibe.

    I learned A LONG TIME AGO, always trust your gut instinct because 9/10 it’s always correct.  Practice saying no. Say no to anything that doesn’t sit well with you; you are entitled to make your own decisions and your feelings are valid.

    Ο Do spend time alone.

    When my anxiety is super crazy some days, I like to shut myself in my dark bedroom, put a weighted blanket  over me and listen to some ASMR on YouTube. It’s very soothing and satisfying; spending time alone can ensure your empty cup gets refilled. Being in world full of sociopaths can be very draining so it;s important to make time for ourselves. There’s 24 hours in a day, you are entitled and deserving of at least one hour of the 24.

    Ο Avoid gossip and bashing others-

    All I will say about this one is, it’s impossible to grow if you’re always worried about what someone else is doing. Water your own grass and focus on it’s growth. Plus, you know you’d be p!ssed if you were in the spot light. Im sure we all learned in grade school that it isn’t nice to talk about someone when they aren’t there to defend themselves

    Ο Speak kindly to yourself and to other people

    Positive affirmations are a great way to put yourself in a self-love routine. Simply start with a simple affirmation. “I am beautiful.” “I can do this.” See my full affirmation’s list to get of easy to follow positive affirmations.

     

     

     

    Ο Stay away from people who drain your energy

    These types of people may be known as toxic people. If you’re afraid to cut a toxic family member off, love them from a distance. After a while though, you’ll learn how to  politely tell them to f*ck off. Once you realize how precious you and your time are, it becomes that much easier to drop the dead weight.  I’m also talking about those so called friends who claim to always have your back, but when the time comes they’re nowhere in sight. Or those friends who never call you to check in, but then claim they hate everyone and so forth…those kind of people will hinder your growth.

    Ο Ignore any opinions that don’t enhance your life

    The way I look at it is, if someone has something to say about my life, they better make sure their closest is empty before judging someone else. Learning how to ignore any opinions that DON’T ENHANCE YOUR LIFE can take a long time., but it is crucial in order to protect your state of mind. I used to find myself overthinking every mean  word said to me. Often times I would actually believe those words and end up in a depressive slump of self-doubt.

    Ο Stop doubting yourself

    Self doubt kills more dreams than I can count. Self doubt is a physical trait that rents a room in your head and feeds you negative thoughts. We must teach ourselves not to fill our beautiful brains with such negativity. As someone who has doubted herself for a very long time, I finally taught myself how to cope with such negativity. When I first started my blog, I had what was known as “impostor Syndrome”, meaning, I kept telling myself I wasn’t good enough for x,y, and z. I redirected who I spent my time on and how much of my time and ideas I was giving away. Be mindful of what goes in your head, because when you feed it positive thoughts, positive outcomes start happening.

     

     

     

     

     

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  • How To Start A Blog in 2020

     

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    How To Start a Blog In 2020

    by: Brit Hutchings

     

     

     

    Curious about how to start a blog? By now, it’s safe to assume you know what a blog is, but you’re unsure of how to start your blog. Starting a blog can leave you feeling clueless, confused + overwhelmed. Have no fear (or doubt!), I’m here to help you set up your very first blog for free. My free instructional guide will show you how to simply create a blog that is user AND creator-friendly + hassle-free.

    I started my blog and it soon opened doorways for me that I only dreamt of when I was younger. I really didn’t think that it was legit to make money from blogging. Some may even consider it “not a real job”. But it is, and I am here to show you how it’s possible.

    When I went through my divorce, my daughters were still very young + I was working fulltime/overtime in the health field (even brought my babies to work with me on the 3rd shift because I didn’t always have a babysitter). I even added full-time schooling to my already overwhelmingly large plate.  My difficult time drove me to get my sh*t together. The girls + I moved out of my parents + into our new home + it was just “us” for a while. Next was to quickly learn how to tightly manage my monthly bills (thanks mom, I owe ya!) since it was the first time being on my own as a newly single mom. Eventually, everything started to turn around. It HAD to because I was sick + tired of living “paycheck to paycheck” all on my own feeling stuck. I was terrified + dreaded having to pick and chose which bills were a top priority to pay + which ones to pay next paycheck. (Yup, that was me!) So, I did my research. A lot of research over some time. + decided it was time for a change. Now I have my own blog + I’m helping other single moms (+ all other mamas) start their blogging business just liked I did!

    Listen, I get it.  Starting a blog can seem intimidating and overwhelming. But this free guide is all about blogging for beginners + will teach you how to be a successful blogger WITH NO EXPERIENCE. Just basic computer skills + a strong passion for something that lights your soul on fire. Seriously. That’s. It.

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    Here’s a quick glance at what I’ll go over with you.

    1. Choosing a topic
    2. Deciding on a personal domain name
    3. Chose a hosting platform (required for blogging)
    4. Publish the first blog post.

    In this blog, I will show you how to start a blog with WordPress ( I HIGHLY suggest the business plan, as when I signed up I chose the free plan and later discovered I would need to upgrade to use the key business features, and ended up spending MORE money than when I had first signed up….$200 worth.) and a hosting site through Bluehost. Don’t panic if you’re completely new to the blogging world (I was too!) + hear verbiage that makes you want to turn the other way- I will walk you through step-by-step so you can be well on your way to makin’ that money, honey!

    Disclosure: This post contains affiliate links, which means if your purchase anything thr

    ough my links, I make a small percentage of it, at no extra cost to you.  BlueHost pays me when you purchase a hosting plan through my links, so my services are free of charge just for you. If you have any confusion or frustration, contact me and I will do it for you. For free. Cool, huh? 😊

    Step 1 + 2: Pick a catchy blog name and Domain name

    The very first step to creating a catchy blog name is choosing your topic. Make sure it’s something you are passionate about and are able to provide content that will help the reader in some form of way.

    If you’re feeling a little dazed + confused about choosing the perfect blog name, here are three different types of blogs:

    • Hobbies & passions.  Think about what your hobbies +other interests are. It can be anything such as cooking, cars, travel, beauty, parenting, or education. These are just some of the classic examples that should spark your brain.
    • Life experiences. Everyone has life lessons they have gone through and by sharing your experience, it can be incredibly helpful to others in the same or similar situations. For example, I recently started a business for single mothers on how to learn + earn extra money on the side. I teach and inspire them to create their own blog + be a thriving blogger. Think about the things you have endured in life + how it can make a positive impact on someone else.  (like a blog about being a stay at home mama), work (being a working mom or working single mom), or other life experiences (a blog about dealing with hardships like divorce, death, or an illness, and even happy events such as birth, marriage, adoption. The choice is wide open. If you’re thinking to yourself “but there’s already millions of blog about XYZ) Don’t let your mind get the best of you. Even though there are many blogs already out there, your own writing style and content are unique to you and you alone.

    >> Once you have a strong professional topic it’s time to get into the good stuff.  And remember, when you chose WordPress, it automatically does this for you if the domain name is not yet taken. 

     

    Step 3: Get your #bossmom blog online

    Now that you have your new professional-but-catchy domain name picked out, it’s time to get your blog online so it can be born. (You’ll eventually see what I mean by that, mamas.)

    To get your money-making blog up + running you first need a blog host.

    A blog host is a trusted company that stores all your blog files and delivers them to readers when they type in your blog name so you don’t have to do it.  NOTE: You must have a blog host in order to have a blog.

    People read blog sites to get a personal feeling on things they are currently experiencing + they want to leave feeling better, so most bloggers write in a very informal and conversational style. People like reading about life experiences and how to do something quick and easy.

    *This post contains affiliate links. That means that Bluehost compensates me whenever you purchase a plan through my link at no extra cost to you. *

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    REGISTER YOUR DOMAIN NAME WITH BLUEHOST

    I managed to work a special deal with BlueHost just for you!

    Why Bluehost

    I personally use BlueHost + I recommend them for any new bloggers because:

    **When you click on the links in this post, you will get 60% off the NORMAL COST OF STARTING a blog for my special discount of $3.95 a month. **

    >> They register your blog name for you for free + hassle-free, making it impossible for anyone else to steal your name.

    >> They offer free + simple installation of the WordPress blogging software (which is what I will show you how to set up + use)

    >> They have a 30-day money-back guarantee so if you are not happy for any reason at all you can get your money back.

    To register your domain name on Bluehost, click my link to get started.

    Next, click the “get started now”


    *side note* mamas, this is an incredible deal! Originally $7.99 per month to $2.75 a month! That’s cheaper than a monthly subscription to Netflix. As I’ve mentioned above, just for using my link to create your very own blog like I did, I want you to have a special discount to start something that will change your life and bring on new opportunities.

     

    Next, enter your new domain under the “new domain” box and click next.

    Next, you’ll get the basic sign up set up. It will ask you for your general personal information (address, payment method so you can get paid for all your hard work) keep going until you reach this page

    This is what I absolutely love about Bluehost. They make it cheap for you to essentially make bank. After a while, your blog will seriously pay for itself + then some. When I first started blogging, the whole “registering my domain name” was daunting to me because I presumed it would be expensive. I didn’t have expensive. I needed something very budget-friendly and Bluehost was the only company that didn’t require a 36 monthly payment upfront. However, if you prefer to pay upfront + not worry about a monthly payment, they do offer that option.

    Once you have completed your payment, you’re going to want to sign in to your Bluehost account and download WordPress (don’t worry, it’s already paid for😉). Click the home button at the top left corner, scroll to the bottom of the page + click install WordPress.

     

    Once it’s installed click “advanced options”

    You’ll want to make sure that “Automatically create a new database for this installation” and “I have read the terms and conditions of the GPLv2” are checked as well. Click “Install Now.”

    Check your email + save the email from Mojo. It’s all of your super personal information so keep it tucked away in a safe spot for later just in case you may need it.

    Now, log into your Bluehost dashboard and start browsing from 1,000’s of free themes. Customize them the way you want!

    CONGRATULATIONS! YOU DID IT! + I am SO proud of you, mama. This page will show you step by step on how to post your first blog! They even have videos tutorials for all you visual learners out there. WordPress breaks it down so it’s easily understood. 😊 Remember, you’ve got this + feel free to contact me if you have ANY questions or need help.

    I am here to guide you along the way.